These Are The Moments That Make Me Want More Sex With My Partner
Marriage and long-term relationships can get monotonous. They can feel dreary. They can become cumbersome. These side effects of being with the same person for many years have long been established.
Yet — there are moments. Moments in my own marriage where I suddenly feel that undeniable itch to just grab my partner and ravage him.
Here are some of those moments…
When He Does The Dishes Without Me Asking.
I’m sure I’m not the only woman to see her partner doing the dishes without any sort of prompt who suddenly feels the need to pummel that person with passionate kisses.
When a partner does any sort of chore without being asked or incessantly nagged about it — that’s a REAL turn-on. I know I’m not alone here. It seems like such a small feat but it’s not. Believe me.
When your partner participates in helping with the mundane chores of everyday life such as cleaning, dishes, etc., it shows not only consideration but responsibility.
Showing responsibility is damn sexy.
When my partner does things he doesn’t want to just to help me out, it makes me desire him even more.
When He Appreciates Me
All human beings want validation and acknowledgment. It’s totally natural. During life, we often slog away doing things that we feel unappreciated for and this is also true in relationships.
Time may pass in a marriage or long-term relationship where one or even both partners feel as though they never get the kudos they deserve for doing all the things they do in a day whether it’s going to work, cleaning, managing a household, raising kids, or ALL of the above combined.
When my partner randomly appreciates me and tells me what a great job I’m doing in any aspect of our lives together — it feels fantastic. It also makes me feel closer to him. It makes me want to be intimate with him. It turns me on.
I know that the same goes for him when I take the time to show my appreciation for everything he contributes to our life together.
Intimacy and mutual appreciation often breed better and more frequent sex — at least for me.
When He Makes Me Laugh
I’ll admit that in the last several years of marriage and raising kids. I seem to have misplaced my sense of humor — well at least in regards to my husband.
He used to be able to make me laugh a ton when we were dating but somewhere along the line — between sleepless nights, dirty diapers, and the emotional, mental, and physical toll of parenting, I stopped laughing at his jokes so much.
I have recently begun to realize that I don’t always need to take things so seriously and that’s it’s OK to laugh. I need more laughter in my life. Laughter is a major turn-on. It releases endorphins. It helps alleviate stress.
I miss laughing with my husband as much as I used to and those moments when he does make me laugh now remind me of what made me fall in love with him in the first place.
There are moments when sex is the last thing on my mind during my marriage. And then there are the moments that bring me back to the reason I fell in love with my partner in the first place — the moments that awaken my desire for this man I have chosen to be with and live with.
I try not to take these moments for granted.